THE CHILD-FREE COUPLE

TIME magazine recently published a cover about the Child Free Living, where having it all means not having children. It truly created a lot of buzz internationally since childlessness is viewed as Taboo.

Having read most of the comments by other netizens, it saddened me to know that people viewed child-free couples as SELFISH. We, the child-free are said to be very involved with ourselves and ourselves alone. They say that we do not want to procreate just so we can travel the world, buy expensive things, and do practically what we want to do. Yes, all those perks that comes with being child-free are all true. We get to enjoy more and enrich ourselves as well as our relationship with our partners.

It hurts me the most when being child-free seemed to be generic to some. They never even considered that there's also the medical condition factor that comes with being child-free. Infertility, just like childlessness, is a topic that is not normally flaunted. Those who have children will never understand what people like us have to go though just to be parents. And though we try so hard, the society still view us as taboo. Why? Because we are a combination of a child-free and infertile couple.

SELFISH? Can I consider myself selfish just because I cannot conceive? Are we selfish because we enjoy our relationship with our husbands more than our female counterparts? Is it selfish to be able to travel with no extra luggage filled with baby stuffs? I say, NO! We are not selfish because we've been put against the wall. People who judge us are the one being selfish because they choose not to see the myriad reasons why we are child-free.

And then, they also call us DINKs ( Double Income No Kids) and questions how we spend our extra money. Oh yes, of course we can afford to buy nice clothes, new bags and even travel the world. It is our hard earned money and there's no way they are allowed to question why we do not spend it on kids education etc. As far as I know, there's no law about DINKS and Child-Free couple.

Lastly, as I look at myself now, I am starting to appreciate the fact that we are still child-free. Why? Because me and Husband are able to enjoy life to the fullest. Being with him is the ultimate happiness I've ever known. No matter how hard my Mother friends convince me how fulfilling it is to become a Mom, I will never know because I've never felt that. And when I tell them how happy my life is, they never seem to understand because they do not know how Child free DINKs are.